8 June 2014
A friend of mine sent me something recently that I think is well worth sharing. Thanks Sam, for bringing it to my attention. It’s easy to lose perspective on the things that really matter, as so much focus is put on material and superficial gain. Every now and then, you hear a story that acts like a fog light, cutting through the confusion and setting us back on the right path. Personally, I think this is one of them. As someone who has had the experience of not being able to say goodbye to my loved ones at a time when I thought it would be my last chance, I’m all too aware of the significance of this story…
Recently, I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport as the daughter’s departure had been announced. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said:
“I love you and I wish you enough.”
The daughter replied, “Mum, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too.”
They kissed and the daughter left.
The mother walked over to the window where I sat. Standing there, I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?”
“Yes, I have,” I replied. “Forgive me for asking but why is this a forever goodbye?”
“I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is the next trip back will be for my funeral,” she said.
“When you were saying goodbye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough.’ May I ask what that means?”
She began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more.
“When we said, ‘I wish you enough’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.” Then, turning towards me, she shared the following, reciting it from memory:
“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final goodbye.”
She then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person; an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire life to forget them.
I hope this story touches you and makes you re-evaluate life a little, as it did for me. We all fall into the trap of losing perspective sometimes, especially when we’re chasing a dream. However, it’s so important to take a step back every now and again, just to make sure we haven’t let other aspects of our life fall by the wayside in the process.