20 September 2015
Focus is an amazing thing.
So often we don’t try something as we “feel” we’d be no good at it. Ever done that?
Actually it’s belief that determines whether you can achieve something or not.
It’s simply a mindset.
The more you believe something the stronger the likelihood of success.
I have studied Tony Robbins’s courses and there is no doubt in my mind that his lessons continue to help both Gail and myself in everything that we do. Whether we are trying to be better parents, businesspeople or friends. Tony’s attitude is heavily weighted towards setting goals, which are essentially lists of ideas you’d like to achieve, then sitting back and letting nature take its course.
The weird thing is, even though you don’t do anything out of the ordinary towards making sure you tackle these lofty objectives, they seem to just happen.
I have no idea how and, if I am honest, I don’t really care. I just know it works. The more it works, the more confidence I have in setting and achieving more goals. And so it continues.
But no matter how good you get at something and no matter how confident you get, every now and then you are bound to get a wobble.
I have been helping a friend hit some goals. She is a professional squash player. She is an amazing athlete and a great friend. Whilst I can’t help her with her technique, the skills I have learnt are definitely transferrable into sport.
Apart from the sessions we have in the UK, Laura calls me for a quick chat before a match. It’s not a particularly long call and we don’t speak about the same thing every time, but I am able to listen to her concerns and ensure she remains focussed on the matter in hand.It’s great fun to test my theories and see if they truly are transferrable, but this week has to be proof enough.
This past week Laura has been in Macau, China. It’s her first tournament of the season.
I have had a quick call every day before her match. Then I have to wait for the result! It’s a horrible wait, but every day she got closer to winning. Winning all of the games taking her up to the final, only dropping one game.
Today was tricky, I was in the mountains in Snowdon with limited phone signal. So between her being in Macau and me being in darkest Wales, I was an hour late this morning.
I won’t tell you what I said, they are not my secrets to give away, but let me say I set off up the mountain with a spring in my step. She was in the final.
I think I was more nervous than her at first, but as I put the phone down, I smiled putting my rucksack on and explained to my two daughters, who love Laura, saying: “She’ll be OK! If you want to worry about anyone, spare a thought for her opponent! She is going to be beaten 3-0.”
The night before, the girls had heard I was climbing Snowdon with my friend Scotty who runs the Farinet,Verbier, for me. They insisted they come along, despite the horrendous weather. So, off we set up the mountains together.
We were about 2/3rds up the mountain when a text came through.
Sure enough she’d done it! 3-0. She’d won the tournament.
We still had someway to go and the weather was setting in at this point so we knuckled down to completing our goal; reaching the summit of Snowdon.
You can go through your life setting massive goals, but the smaller ones are just as important. I love Snowdon as a goal because it’s a tough day and, no matter how many times I have done it, its never easy.
To reach the summit with two of my daughters and spend a day outdoors with them both is just what I need in between the busy weeks at UKFast. Now all I need is a good result in the rugby, which I recorded earlier! Unfortunately I can’t influence that one.