31 October 2013
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear” – Nelson Mandela
Seeing the photos today of the UKFast team dressed up as infamous villains, blood-spattered surgeons and escaped convicts got me thinking about fear. It’s an interesting concept and can be hard to control sometimes. But how much of it is down to perspective?
I can think of plenty of people who dread public speaking. They work themselves up about it, suffering sleepless nights running through all the possible scenarios that they could find themselves in; freezing in front of a crowd, forgetting the words to a speech or tripping and falling over.
But focusing on the things you don’t want to happen is counter productive as you actually start to gravitate towards the very thing you’re concentrating on.
Emotions are the result of whatever you are focussing on at any given time and you can only feel one at a time. You cannot feel simultaneously happy and sad; frustrated and happy, or annoyed and relaxed. I find that, if you’re feeling stressed or fearful then thinking about the things you’re grateful for helps to counter those negative feelings.
What are you afraid of? And how do you manage fear?