20 October 2015
“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.”
Maya Angelou said this in her first book of essays and it really resonates with me.
Invariably, there are some bigger stumbling blocks than others, but there are hundreds of these smaller points where stopping and taking stock of the situation before complaining could have a huge impact.
It can be incredibly difficult to change your mindset or approach to something, and even more so to get out of the habit of complaining but, in my opinion, it can be life changing.
How different would your life be if you were in the habit of looking at issues differently? Asking how can you solve the problem. How can you change your attitude towards the problem? How can this become a positive?
It is interesting that once you start to think about it, you realise just how many influential people throughout history have recommended the same thing. Teddy Roosevelt once said that ‘complaining about a problem without posing a solution is called whining’.
How can you solve the issue,? If you can’t solve it how can you think differently about it? How can you bring positivity to the situation?
I have met some incredibly successful people who have this gift, and I am working hard to develop it myself and focus on the bright side. Life is much lighter that way.
Next time you’re in the position where complaining would be your ‘go to’ option, stop. Take a breath and rethink your approach. Ultimately complaining about today, won’t make your tomorrow any better.